We all have qualities that can be used to free us or confine us depending on how we use them. I’ll be first to admit that I’m strong headed and stubborn. I don’t give up and I’m always attempting to translate beliefs and principles into something real. At times these qualities function to my advantage. For instance, Steven and I are in this unspoken battle to one-up each other (in a supportive way) on the amount we exercise during the week. If I peek into the studio and I see him working out or heading out for a run I’ll practically drop everything to workout again and the same goes for him too. In life and business, if I have a question or a problem that needs to be solved I’ll pursue the answer to no end. It can be a disadvantage too. All too often if I have my blinders on to the rest of the world I’ll miss out on some experiences. I’ll admit that I haven’t had a true vacation in a while because of how focused I am. I’ve improved int his area but there’s times where I’ll push so hard that it ends up hurting myself or stressing others out. I’ve learned to understand this quality of mine and use it in my life.
We’ve all had this similar experience, where our passions or skills lead us to paths we never would have thought we’d journey. At first there’s this excitement and charge to push onwards. But sometimes its like you’re running along in the woods and all of a sudden you find yourself entirely lost. Maybe it’s a fitness goal that you’ve decided to take on or maybe a professional goal that has led us to the point where we look around and realize that everything around us has changed. It may feel sometimes as if our lives are so different now that we’ve distanced ourselves away from our friends and close ones. I believe that this is one of the reasons why people are so fearful of change. Even if their lives are not where they want to be, we’re comfortable with consistency. We’d rather choose to complain about it instead of do something about it because we fear the unknown.
I was walking down the streets of Old Montreal last week admiring the old cobblestone pathways this one thought kept crossing through my mind:
“In life, the only thing we can be entirely certain about is uncertainty. Playing it safe is one of the riskiest things you can do because it goes nowhere.”
We should embrace the fact that our passions lead us down paths less traveled because that is what creates us as unique people. When we stop focusing on how different we will or have become we let go of the false notion that we are in control of our lives. We are not. Life is the uncontrollable product of our actions and reactions. As we create ourselves we find community and a place to belong. New and old friends accept us as being who we are and as long as we do not fixate on our past we can fully accept ourselves as unique and wonderful.
Take some time today. Write a list of two or three goals that you want to achieve in the next 6 months and a list of your skills and qualities that best define you. These two lists intersect in life and lead you to success and fulfillment.