Change: Your Life Depends On It

Life changes and we have to accept it. Instinctually, there are three ways to react to the potential of change in our lives:

  • Accept Change
  • Fight Change
  • Paralysis

I would venture to say most of us view accepting change as the most fulfilling choice, as if we’re innately paralyzed by change, causing us to resist the possibility of it. Even if change will improve our lives, we feel partially content with our currently imperfect life situations. We have options and opportunities to improve our health and wellness, but we choose to pass up on them. We choose to stay in irrationally poor circumstances of life – careers, relationships, bad habits – because we are frozen by the notion of change.

I spent over three years in an unsatisfying career, complacent with the discomfort of waking up every morning feeling unfulfilled and miserable with life. I knew what I needed to do, but I just could not work myself up to it. Three years ago, I finally took it upon myself to make a change; since then, I’ve never looked back. With that decision to embrace and accept life changes, and I’ve become a completely different person.

In my readings over the past few months I came across the Satir Curve of Change:

Satir Curve of Change

The Satir Curve of Change maps out the result of Competence, defined as fulfilment and happiness over time, when a person is presented with the notion of change from an outside influence. When circumstances in life encourage change, the concept of accepting change creates chaos in our mind, even though a change may eventually result in fulfillment. Chaos is the ultimate reason we fear change, but life revolves around the idea of perpetual variances of order and disorder. Although it would be idyllic to assume a life of incessant peace, ignoring change and remaining stagnant would eventually lead to decreased happiness and satisfaction in our lives.

Facing our choices and making decisions is inherently intimidating, but the beneficial outcomes from change usually conquer any negatives. When people make the choice to start exercising, they bring improvement to their cardiovascular health, mental health, and immune system; making positive choices to change current situations can bring happiness and satisfaction. When you accept the chance to make a change, it can ultimately lead to an improved quality of life and a great sense of fulfillment.

The opportunities to make a change are there if you choose to take them. So, what’s holding you back?

About Chris Tse

I’m a scientist turned owner of Blitz Conditioning, a Fitness Columnist at CBC Radio on Thursdays at 8:20 am, and owner of Tse Social Strategy. Follow me on Twitter or Read my full bio.

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