5 Mistakes People Make in the Pursuit of Fulfilment

At Blitz Conditioning, we have the privilege to watch our community flourish. Every day, Brett and I look forward to coming into work and seeing our clients and friends. It’s our passion to assist people as they pursue healthier lifestyles; I myself, try to leave a positive impact on each person I interact with. Whether I’m told in person, through email, via Twitter or Facebook – I feel humbled when I hear people’s stories of lifestyle change. (Keep the great feedback coming! )

On the topic of striving for an accomplished life, I’ve asked the following poignant question: “What mistake have you made in your pursuit of fulfillment?” As a response, I commonly receive a pensive pause, followed by varied statements with similar themes. Here’s some of the answers I get:

Mistake #1: “I’m Not Following My Dreams…”

Everyone has a dream, but how many of us pursue them with unrelenting passion? We often set up mental road blocks, using statements like “I can’t…” or “It’s too late…”, only to end up settling for something less than we’re worth. If you take a close look at people who exude genuine happiness and lead a fulfilling life, you’ll notice that they commonly set the bar to ultimate limits and reach for their goals. Chasing a dream shouldn’t be irresponsible or unrealistic; the idea of chasing a dream should give us all a purpose to our actions and every day existence.

Mistake #2: “I’m Not Taking Full Responsibility for My Life…”

It’s inevitable that life will throw us curveballs; for all the good moments, we’re going to have to endure some bad ones. Sometimes those not so great times throw us in a rut, leaving us to play the blame game and defer any responsibility of our actions, emotions, and outcomes away from ourself. When things don’t necessarily go our way, we forget to take control, and be proactive with our responding choices; we make excuses instead.

Mistake #3: “I Neglect The People Around Me…”

Much of our lives are based on numerous influential relationships. It’s easy to exhaust all our time and energy into the daily chaos of our own lives, and we tend to use our depleted souls as an excuse to put off connecting with others. Neglecting relationships can certainly lead to problems in our personal health, and our mission to lead a fulfilling life.

Mistake #4: “I Continually Live in the Past or For the Future – I Don’t Live in the Present…”

Many people tend to hold onto their past because of nostalgia and/or regret; others live in a perpetual state of the future, ignoring the status of their current surroundings. It’s important to focus on living in the present, and appreciate all that life has to offer. It’s okay to cherish old memories, and set goals while looking to the future, but we can’t cling to the past or fixate on what’s to come. Try to live in the moment; fulfillment comes by enjoying all of life.

Mistake #5: “I Work Too Hard, Too Much”

We have to stop taking life so seriously! It’s important to have a firm grasp on your life, but it’s just as important to have some fun. Every so often, take a step back and focus on the simple pleasures of life. If you look at a baby learning to crawl, you’ll notice that they play, giggle, and smile while they undertake one of life’s most significant transitions. Using this as an example, it shows that we can achieve great things in our lives by enjoying the process, while tackling them with a playful manner and light heart. 

About Chris Tse

I’m a scientist turned owner of Blitz Conditioning, a Fitness Columnist at CBC Radio on Thursdays at 8:20 am, and owner of Tse Social Strategy. Follow me on Twitter or Read my full bio.

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